I’m really not one of those people who start their January with the whole ‘new year, new me’ fiasco. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but I think little amendments and changes is what helps me personally, rather than pretending to be something I’m not and then feeling like a failure when I’m stuffing a donut down my throat!
Nope, I need to be realistic. And that’s why I wanted to write this post- to allow myself to think about what I’ve experienced this year, what lessons I’ve learnt and how I want to start my 2018 and how best to use what I’ve learn from this year. So I’ve come up with a few focus points I wanted to share.
Don’t feel guilty
When I moved to London, I moved away from my family and friends who are up north. It’s always going to be difficult without them and I knew that from the start however when I hear bad news or if I know someone is struggling with something, I automatically feel guilty about not being there to offer support. I’ve learnt that this isn’t necessary. I moved for a reason and I’m happy with that reason and I can be of support from where I am. How is feeling guilty going to help anyone, especially me?! So instead, I’m going to start thinking about what I can do rather than what I can’t do.
Life isn’t always going to go your way
Okay, now i’m starting to sound super depressing! I don’t mean to but now I’ve come to terms with the fact that life often throws shit my way, the easier it is to deal with it. It’s easy to have a plan, goals and a perfect vision of how you’d like things but it doesn’t work that way. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes a plan B can be surprisingly good!
Enjoy your weekends
I went through a phase a while ago where my working week was so busy that all I wanted to do at the weekends was slob out and eat crap food and watch the Kardashians. Actually, that really isn’t good for me! I get much more out of making plans for the weekend, catching up with friends/family or even just going for a walk and getting some fresh air. Yes, we should all have our downtime but plans make me happy and I’m looking forward to a lengthy list of plans for next year.
Don’t be ashamed of who you are
I am one emotional lady. I can sit there and cry for bloody ages whilst watching an advert that may have reminded of my Grandad. I can watch Hollyoaks and relate so much to a storyline that I tear up. I can just be feeling run down and not even know why I’m crying. Honestly, if there was a way to stop it I would!! It’s not an issues though- it’s something that I have learnt to accept and others around me should do to. There’s nothing wrong with being emotional, plus I always feel better after a good cry!
Recycle your wardrobe
A new season hits and I panic thinking I need BRAND NEW EVERYTHING from every store. I spend hours scrolling down my instagram feed watching all my blogger pals purchasing the newest trends and looking amazing but sometimes, if you just take a look at what you have, how you can mix it up and ways to make it work- you often can! Then, all you have to do is buy yourself a few nice treats for the season and you’re good to go!
I’m so bad at responding to messages
Its something that I’m not going to get better at because I’ve tried so hard before and then just failed. I will respond to people, I just personify a snail or turtle when doing so. I always apologise for it too! Please don’t hate me for it!
I don’t need random collaborations
I can often feel so rubbish about my blog, the lack of followers and the fact I have no ‘blogger mail’ etc. What I’ve learnt though is that I need to stay genuine and real. I don’t need to have collabs with companies that I don’t feel passionate about to have any success. I just need to be happy with what I’m doing and be proud of it also. I got this!
You only have one life
One life! And I’m already 26 years into mine! Sometimes it’s easy for us to forget this and feel so tied up in what we’re doing. The thought of focusing on fun stuff and just living life to the fullest does make me relax already. So time to live life and not sweat the small stuff. We’ll see how this works out 😉
So I’m ready for a new year. Not a new me, the same old one with a more realistic outlook knowing that things always work out in the end!
I hope 2018 holds a lot of fun and exciting memories for all my lovely readers!